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Stress – In Out and Shake it all About

Let’s take a moment and have a little chat about energy. I hear so many people say “I have no energy”. When I had pernicious anaemia that was also my mantra! The reality is this: we always have the same amount of energy floating around our body at one time. Physics tells us that energy cannot be made:

The law of conservation of energy states that energy can never be created or destroyed, it can only change forms.

Our cells can only be in one state at a time: either growth and repair, or defence. I know what I want to use my energy for, but what is happening to the energy in your body? What is it being used for? Fight, flight and freeze, inflammation, stress…. take a moment now and think about it: what is my body using energy for?

Let’s stop for a moment and think about stress, because we can feed our cells all the water we want, but is it going to make a difference if we are stressed? You have to work on the root cause. Let me ask you a question: do you think your cells care about an email that has just arrived from your boss, or that your bank balance is looking as if it might be in the red? No. It just sees stress as stress: you’re either in a state of stress or not.

You experience two types of stress: internal and external.


  • Work
  • Money
  • Time
  • Family
  • Spouse
  • Children


  • Health problems
  • Physical ailments
  • Debilitating thoughts

Can you control the external stress? You may think you can, but I’ve got news for you. The truth is, you are not Supergirl, no matter how hot you think you look in that little red skirt. External stress is out of our control. We do not have control over these situations. Your boss could take out their stress on you. You could receive an unexpected email about voluntary redundancy, or a payment you forgot about could come out of your bank account. Maybe your partner comes home in a bad mood and argues with you…shall I go on?

This is actually quite liberating, as we spend so much of our time trying to control these situations, but just breathe, because it is completely out of your control. The only thing over which you have control is your reaction to this stress, i.e. how you respond, whether you decide to process it or hold onto it, express your emotion or hold it in. It is deeply empowering to know that you have no control over these situations, as you can now focus on how you are going to choose to respond.

If you would like to share how you are going to choose to respond, I would love it if you feel you could put it in the comments below.

Remember, if this post tickles your soul, please like and share and I’ll see you next week.




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